No turning back…

What do I see in the depths of her heart?

but a child so pure, innocent and set apart…

apart from the filth and innocence robbed…

apart from the trusting hands that cradled her soul…

took her aside and stole what was not theirs…

apart from lies and deep secrets untold…

childhood nightmares…

try to continue to unfold…

give her air…

so she can breathe…

open the window and set her…

Free.

Being 9 years old, I did not understand the sick logic of an old man and his ungodly desire to violate children. Why would the same person who brought so much joy to a family, bring pain? He was¬†a lion in sheep’s clothing, and the least likely to ever be accused of such a crime. The burden he placed upon us to¬†“keep a secret”, was the ultimate breach of¬†trust against generations of children.

To be set free from the pain of my past, everyday I have to believe that I have a choice…

A choice to listen to the lies or the truth

To see myself as healed or broken

To live with shame or to live unashamed

To speak or to silence my voice.

You see, to declare that I’m no longer held captive by my childhood secrets, requires a daily willingness to change how I view myself and a determination to never be bound to that pain again.

~ Denise

Who the Son sets free is free indeed. John 8:36

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Please join me in sharing the following video. Social network has a way of spreading information out quickly, please reblog, post, tweet, facebook, email, etc! Thank you ahead of time for doing YOUR part in bringing Awareness to END Childhood Sexual Abuse.
~ Denise ~ No Longer Held Captive..By My Childhood Secrets

No longer held captive

~By breaking my silence, I am no longer giving power to the pain~

Today, I want to encourage you to break your silence and declare that you

Are No Longer Held Captive..By Your Childhood Secrets..

May your temporary sorrow, lead you to Triumphant Victory ~ Denise

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Everyone Has A Story..

Please watch this¬†Amazing Video¬†created by¬†Shelly Brown.¬†May her story bless you as it did me…

EVERYONE HAS A STORY..

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IN the Midst of the Storm..

While looking at this picture, a sense of fear tends to come over me. I relate this picture to the storms of life, that I have already encountered and the ones I will bravely walk thru as I continue to acknowledge and address my childhood sexual abuse. This road will lead me to my complete healing.

“THE¬†STORM WILL BE VERY DIFFICULT TO SEE IN THE DARK. DO NOT WAIT. TAKE COVER NOW”.

These words were  announced on the national weather broadcast for the recent Oklahoma Tornado warnings. These words stuck with me and I knew I had to press on through my storm.

Remaining¬†in the state of mind that kept me imprisoned to the abuse,¬†was natural.¬†I had been accustomed to the negative¬†way of thinking,¬†without fully realizing that I was still living as a Victim. The lack of self-esteem, the negative self-talk, the feeling of not being good enough, consumed my life.¬†The decision to share my story and¬†acknowledge¬†that my innocence had been sacrificed to give someone else pleasure¬†caused my heart to ache with immeasurable amount of pain . The heaviness alone made me want to¬†run in the opposite direction and forgo any further “journey to healing”.

Again, I heard the warning, “THE STORM WILL BE DIFFICULT TO SEE IN THE DARK. DO NOT WAIT. TAKE COVER NOW”.

My storm of abuse may be difficult to look back on and acknowledge but when I face the darkness of my past, I know that I am to patiently experience every dimension of my healing and Wait and to Take Cover, because, my help is near.

With God being my help. I have chosen to focus on Psalms 91:

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High¬†will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. They say of the LORD, ‚ÄúHe is my refuge and my fortress,¬†my God, in whom I trust.‚ÄĚ

Surely he will save you¬†from the fowler‚Äôs snare¬†and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his feathers,¬†and under his wings you will find refuge;¬†his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,¬†nor the plague that destroys at midday. A thousand may fall at your side,¬†ten thousand at your right hand,¬†but it will not come near you. You will only observe with your eyes¬†and see the punishment of the wicked. If you say, ‚ÄúThe LORD is my refuge,‚Ä̬†and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you,¬†no disaster will come near your tent. For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways.

IN the midst of the storm, I call on Jesus..

Denise Boyd Copyright ©

Today..I Strive..

From this day forth, I strive to tell the

  • Authentic ¬†‚Äútrue to one’s own personality, spirit, or character‚ÄĚ
  • Unadulterated¬† ‚ÄĚnot diluted or made impure‚ÄĚ
  • Truth ‚Äúa verified or indisputable fact‚ÄĚ

Of, My story about being sexually molested as a child and raped as a teenager.

Over the years, I learned how to mask the hurt, pain and turmoil. As of yet, I have not shared my story with some of my closest friends or many of my family members. Some may say, I am the ultimate actress in this role I call, My Life.  Yes, in order to cope, I had to seperate myself from the little girl who was abused. But at 42 years of age, those acts of violation againgst me, affected who I was, and held me back from who God truly inteded for me to be. It was time for me to heal.

In this journey, I use the following¬†statement of¬†truth to remind myself of who I am and who I have become, “I am beautifully created, smart and funny. I take pride in being a great Mother, Wife, Daughter, Sister, and Friend. I am a professional woman who is Loved and Respected. People want to be around me because they like me, and not¬†because they want to use my body for their pleasure”.¬† The affirmations and declarations I use are an¬†imperative part of my healing.

Reading and writing poetry has always been one of my passions,¬†in Maya Angelou‚Äôs ‚ÄúStill I Rise‚ÄĚ poem, there is a section that says,¬†‚ÄúDid you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops. Weakened by my soulful cries‚ÄĚ. It goes on to say, Still‚ĶI Rise, I Rise, I Rise“.

The abusers may have tried to break me, by¬†unknowingly keeping me in¬†a lifetime of¬†bondage to the ‚Äúhidden‚ÄĚ parts of my life.¬†When I release those secrets,¬†I¬†allow myself to feel the deep pain caused by the abuse. In the privacy of my home, normally in my room, I¬†reflect on¬†the abuse.¬†The¬†overwhelming feeling of heartache¬†consumes me¬†and has caused me to¬†fall to the ground,¬†roll up in a ball, and lay there in a fetal position. The amount of pain that I carry in my soul can be debilitating. (when reflecting on the pain, always make sure you have a support system nearby, for your safety)

In those moments, I cry out to God and hold onto my Faith. He helps me to Rise with Strength and with Power to overcome the hurt, guilt, shame and depression. The following video is of Whitney Houston singing,¬†“I¬†Look to You”. It is a powerful song that depicts the ultimate need for Grace,¬†Love and Acceptance that I’ve learned can only be fulfilled by my relationship¬†with God.

As I move forward in this Healing Journey, I will always continue to Look To You, which comes my help.
Denise Boyd Copyright ©